Dads Are People 2

PRESS PLAY ! THIS IS WHAT AN ABUSIVE WOMAN ,A CHEATER AND A LIAR LOOKS LIKE ! Her name is Tania Svencicki Tania used Shelters, comunity workers, CAS and every other person at her disposal to misslead judges by lieing on affidavits used to obtain protection orders from family courts in Ottawa. They are making claims while all along knowing that judges are not going to allow children to stand on a trial, or court room to voice their version of what may or may not have happened. When I have been faced with false alligations, the only witnesses I have are my children, and a list of approx 30 people. And I am told by my lawyer Bruce Simpson in Ottawa, that the courts won't hear from any child. And I was unable to get to a trial, therefor now none of my witnesses are not able to testify that Tania has lied on numerous occasions on all her affidavits submitted to the courts. As a result of LAWYER MISS-CONDUCT It has become a he said she said, long battle in court, wasting lots of valuble monies being spent in legal costs throughout Ontario. And my children are missing out on me, their daddy. These words have been stated by, the Rt. Hon. Chief Justice of Canada, Beverley McLachlin, P.C. http://www.scc-csc.gc.ca/Welcome/index_e.asp "Canadians are privileged to live in a peaceful country. Much of our collective sense of freedom and safety comes from our community’s commitment to a few key values: democratic governance, respect for fundamental rights and the rule of law, and accommodation of difference. Our commitment to these values must be renewed on every occasion, and the institutions that sustain them must be cherished. Among those institutions, I believe that Canadian courts, including the Supreme Court of Canada, play an important role. A strong and independent judiciary guarantees that governments act in accordance with our Constitution. Judges give effect to our laws and give meaning to our rights and duties as Canadians. Courts offer a venue for the peaceful resolution of disputes, and for the reasoned and dispassionate discussion of our most pressing social issues. Every judge in Canada is committed to performing this important role skillfully and impartially. Canadians should expect no less." AFTER READING THIS, AND KNOWING WHAT I HAVE GONE THROUGH. WHY IS IT I really don't know where to turn, when I am forced into this prison without my children. I have had many breakdowns, I have lost a considerable amount of weight, and I cannot sleep at night much anymore. I have had lost all desire to work, as time has passed due to stress. I believe I am now in a progression of depression, which can only lead to medical problems down the line. I have tried on many occations to attempt to discuss this issue with the CAS workers and supervisors to no avail. I do not know where to turn. I have gone through 3 different lawyers now, to try and assist me in battleing a failing court battle of false accusations to clear my name, and everytime, I make another attempt, the CAS claim I make no efforts,and they too have lied on affidavits. yet the judge believes everything the CAS state at face Value, and do not question my evidence, before making a decision to remove my parenting rights. My own lawyer Bruce Simpson even tells me that as I am the father to my children, I have no rights to father them, and I only have the obligation to pay for their care, while he tells me to just accept the supervision order that has been made under false pretence to misslead the courts. Please, I am at the end of the end. There is no where for me to turn now. Our CAS officials, along with our family court system, is forcing me in a dead beat dad status and destroying my family altogether. Without my children in my life, I feel like I have failed the most important job of my life. Being a dad to my kids., I am nothing without them, I am lost in my heart and soul. I have been in greaving since Tania started this the CAS has come into my life. Please I applore for assistance. Bryan A walking dead dad. TANIA SVENCICKI IF YOU COME TO SEE THIS SITE, PLEASE LOOK AT THE WORDS TO THE SONG I HAVE JUST BELOW. IMAGINE OUR KIDS SENDING ME A LETTER LIKE THIS! I DON'T WANT THE CHILDREN TO FEEL THIS EMPTINESS THEY WILL FEEL IN TIME IF YOU KEEP THESE LIES GOING IN COURT. PLEASE HAVE A HEART, AND FEEL MY LOSS AND PAIN. I LOVE AND MISS THEM DEARLY! While the “Best Interest of the Child” is a well-meaning legal concept in theory, the criteria set forth in most of the statutes is so broad and vague as to be susceptible to arbitrary interpretation by a mediator, guardian or attorney ad litem, psychologist or a court thereby yielding significantly different results and constituting a convenient disguise for discrimination based on gender of the parent. Like the “Intent of the voter”, the “Best Interest of the Child” does not satisfy the minimum requirements for non-arbitrary treatment of parents necessary to secure the equal fundamental rights of those parents. A child custody conflict usually arises between two fit parents, that both love their child and want to be responsible for their care. But one parent, (most recent studies show) usually the Mother, acting out of anger, selfishness, or vindictiveness doesn’t want to share the joys of raising the child, wants to have full parental control over the child, and/or wants the disproportionate child support entitlement that the custodial parent is usually awarded. These goals are usually achieved by diminishing the parental role of the other parent. This leaves the non-custodial parent with the option of accepting the minimized parental role or enduring a long intrusive, destructive and expensive legal battle over the custody of the children, to determine what is in the “Best Interest of the Child”. Many parents (especially Fathers) who cannot endure the emotional and financial cost of this process are disenfranchised from their children. This clearly is not in the “Best Interest of the Child”. The words to this song below, could not have been written any better. Picture a child who has not seen thier dad, in so long. Children will never really understand what really happened. But they will sure feel the pain and emptiness for many years. Do you really want your child to hate you, or just not have you in their lives? How a parent can just walk away from their children, I guess I will never understand. Title: Good Charlotte - Emotionless lyrics Hey dad I’m writing to you, Not to tell you That I still hate you Just to ask you How you feel And how we fell apart How this fell apart Are you happy out there In this great wide world Do you think about your sons, Do you miss your little girl When you lay your head down, How do you sleep at night Do you even wonder if we’re alright, But we’re alright. We’re alright It’s been a long hard road without you by my side Why weren’t you there all the nights that we cried You broke my mother’s heart, You broke your children for life It’s not ok! but we’re alright I remember the days you were a hero in my eyes But those are just a long lost memory of mine I spent so many years Learning how to survive Now I’m writing just to let you know I’m still alive The days I spent So, cold, so hungry Were full of hate. I was so angry The scars run deep inside This tattooed body There’s things I’ll take, To my grave But I’m ok. I’m ok It’s been a long hard road without you by my side Why weren’t you there all the nights that we cried You broke my mother’s heart You broke your children for life It’s not ok but we’re alright I remember the days you were a hero in my eyes But those are just a long lost memory of mine Now I’m writing just to let you know I’m still alive And I’m still alive Sometimes I forget.... Yeah and this time I’ll admit, that I miss you... Said I miss you It’s been a long hard road without you by my side Why weren’t you there all the nights that we cried You broke my mother’s heart You broke your children for life It’s not ok but we’re alright I remember the days you were a hero in my eyes But those are just a long lost memory of mine Now I’m writing just to let you know I’m still alive And sometimes I forget. This time I’ll admit, That I miss you. I miss you Hey dad ****UPDATE**** I lost in court. She was to be charged with misleading Justice, but the crowns office felt it would not be in the childrens best interest to put their mother in jail, or have charges brought against her. Pathetic justice system I say. It's OK to put fathers in jail! and charge them for all sorts of things, real or not, but not ok to put the same for mothers. What a joke our court system seems like today. She had to appear in court facing criminal charges on the 8th of March, 2007 in courtroom 5 AT 8:30Am I was happy to see things were finally looking up. So if you have been falsely accused of things that you can actually prove they lied, DO IT ! It still may be worth the effort. The crowns office did tell me that they have a year from then to have her charged, if she continued the lies in court. It took me 25 minutes of court time, and it was done. All I did was answer a few questions, show my evidence,and one of 3 of my witnesses had gone on the stand, then the judge told the other 2 witnesses that it was not necessary for them to go on the stand, because he has heard enough to make his decision to allow charges to be laid against Tania. But it never did happen. I hope the crowns office will turn their decision around this time around if we go back to court. Maybe it can work for you. I will keep trying to get 50/50 split custody from here on in. But I won't hold my breath. SO, Don't hesitate. do it while you have the chance. Don't let it wait more then 2 years, or it will not work in your favor, or, should I say, this is what the crowns office told me. Best of luck to all who try. I will keep all informed of all dates that she has to appear in front of a judge. **UPDATE** We appeared in court on the 22nd of October 2007. Now the CAS has fabricated stories on their affidavit to use in court....Not surprising ! Seeing as now they are trying to claim that my own children stated things that they hope will harm me credibility in court. I know the children didn't state this, because it never happened. But the CAS make these claims because the judge doesn't usually put the children on the stand when CAS is asking for a PROTECTION ORDER. I asked my lawyerto request to have the judge make an exception in this case as It will prove the CAS has lied on their affidavits. My lawyer refused. My 18 year old son will also testify that they lied on affidavits wear they claim that my son told them, I grabbed him by the throat. It never happened. One day, I hope for judges to see that the CAS and oposing parents manipulate affidavits in order to get PROTECTION ORDERS. And once the judges hear that it is the case, that affidavits are purposly used to lie to misslead courts, I will sue the CAS for "defimation of charachter" and "Misleading Justice". But for some reason my lawyer, (BRUCE SIMPSON), said he will not ask the judge to allow for the children to take the stand. In my opinion, the CAS really should record all conversations with children in audio/video format. This should be standard practice for all cases. It should be law. The Invincible Relationship Courtesy of Barrhavan Independent, Friday, August 9, 2002, Page 11 And Luke De Sadeleer M.Ed Some couples seem to have a natural ability to build a caring relationship. They focus on what is good in their relationship in order to make it even better. Other couples complain about what is wrong with their relationship, lay guilt trips on each other and keep repeating the same mistakes. In my experience, if you and your loving partner want an invincible relationship, the process of making this happen becomes easier when both partners are able to focus on their strengths and learn to manage their weaknesses. However, too often you are told you are not good enough unless you change. And change in this case means working on your weaknesses. Unfortunately, if you are focused on your weakness, you will be spending a lot of wasted energy when you focus on your weaknesses, it begins to suffocate your strengths. Focusing on the failures in your relationship will only make you feel worse, and you will inevitably neglect the successes. The greatest chance for creating a strong bond and loving relationship with your partner lies in remembering and improving the positive things, and getting back on track, while doing less of the negative things. Instead of thinking about what is wrong with the relationship, identify and develop what is right. Many disagreements in a relationship are about not getting enough of something we want from our partner. In my practice, a typical complaint I have heard from couples concerns the level of affection in their relationship. One partner may complain that the other is not spontaneous, or frequent enough with the amount of hugging and kissing. The other then protests that they are not a “deep feeling” type of person, and that they never experienced that in their home. So the typical cycle becomes one of complaint about the others shortcomings. Threats about “improve or face consequences” begin to fly. Unfortunately, threats to change or improve can overwhelm a person, and will not likely get us the response we are looking for, just as the person who marches up to their partner and aggressively shouts “Kiss me!” isn’t likely to get a warm and affectionate response. The answer lies in managing the things you don’t do so well, and discovering and nurturing the things you do best. I am not suggesting that we shouldn’t change. I accept that we may need to adjust our behaviour. Even if we were raised in an environment where little affection was shown, we can learn to give and receive affection ourselves. However we can’t expect to become spontaneous and overly affectionate person. Weaknesses cannot be transformed into strengths. Think about what your relationship would be like if you devoted more time to discovering what you and your partner appreciate and enjoy. Imagine spending most of your time working on the good stuff until the positive experiences simply overwhelm the negative ones. Comments from a wise judge: "Although the dispute is symbolized by a 'versus' which signifies two adverse parties at opposite poles of a line, there is in fact a third party whose interests and rights make of the line a triangle. That person, the child who is not an official party to the lawsuit but whose well-being is in the eye of the controversy, has a right to shared parenting when both are equally suited to provide it. Inherent in the express public policy is a recognition of the child's right to equal access and opportunity with both parents, the right to be guided and nurtured by both parents, the right to have major decisions made by the application of both parents' wisdom, judgement and experience. The child does not forfeit these rights when the parents divorce." --Presiding Judge Dorothy T. Beasley, Georgia Court of Appeals, "In the Interest of A.R.B., a Child," July 2, 1993 Lets look at why you have decided to come to this page to begin with. Somehow, people are being convicted for crimes they never comitted in the first place. When a father, or mother has their children taken away from them for no reason, but selfishness. People for some reason, like to feel power and authority, to dominate. oh, how it must feel great to be a controlling person in someones life. What ever happened to 50/50 equal rights. The right to parent your children is taken from good parents every day. Most of the time it seems that woman like to accuse men of abuse when in family court. Woman are able to do alot of interesting things in this country. If a man was to do some of the things woman do every day, he'd be in jail serving time for abuse for the rest of his life. Woman have the rights to make accusations about any man, and are free to lie when needed to gain sole custody of their children. Theres not really much the average man, could do to change what happens to his future with his children from this point on. So lets look at what happens. First, the woman would go to a community center in the area they reside. Then they claim some sort of abuse. Usually, woman will claim the kind of abuse that leaves no scaring. They claim mental abuse, and phycological abuse. From there the community center sends the information along with a letter of recomendation to a shelter for abused woman. The woman would go there and claim all kinds of abuse that cannot be proven, then the shelter would set her up with putting her name at the top of a list for priority emergency housing with a low income housing office. Sometimes charges will be laid to the accused man for the alligations of abuse she claimed. But most men would not get charged, because there is no evidence to act on. So now the father has to defend himself in a loosing battle in family court, just to see his children. Sometimes, months go by, because of the slow moving court files going through our courts. From there the man has to prove to the courts that this abuse didn't happen. I was told by my lawyers, that when it gets to a trial, she would have to show evidence of these claims of abuse, but thats only if you can get to a trial. Legal Aid will not fund a trial for men, because as Natalie Champaine from the Laga; Aid office in downtown Ottawa states, if your a man in family court, odds are you will loose in court, so we cannot fund a trial. They claim that it will cost too much tax payers money. Because she is believed at face value. So she gets what she wants, FULL CUSTODY of her children and you have weekend visits for the rest of your life. And you have to pay child support for children you can't watch grow....go figure...... So. What is Justice you ask? Well seeing woman get away with these lies is deffinatly not justice, so do your part and help make this problem go away. Report all lies that are on any affidavits made by the other parent or CAS to the courts in an affidavit and lay charges until you get the truth out. Make the judges aware of all the lies, and back it up with evidence. The charges would be called,"MISSLEADING JUSTICE". And have her charged AS MANY TIMES AS POSSIBLE.. If we all actually did this when facing family court, the judges would be able to make better decisions as to who has the best interest of the children at heart. Just make sure that you want to do this, because putting the mother in jail, may not be in the childs best interest. But it will for sure make her think twice the next time she wants to take you to court with lies and deceit. Click to join dadsarepeople2 http://ca.groups.yahoo.com/group/dadsarepeople2/?yguid=257128780 I have decided to start this site because of the problems I have faced having to deal with my ex trying to do everything she can to prevent me from fathering my children. I am a father who loves all my children very much, and my ex has made all sorts of FALSE ALLIGATIONS of mental, physical, and emossional abuse towards her and our children, preventing me from watching my children grow. And she has been trying to convince the courts that I was never living with her since we seperated in 2001 when I got a temporary custody order of my son because she had been trying to bilk the court system claiming all sorts of false abuse alligations that she couldn't prove. We did reconcile 2 weeks after our break up, and she swore she was sorry, and further told me that she was stressed because of my work scedual as I was self employed as a mover. I decided that It would be best for me to stop my moving company, because my family was becoming stressed with all the time involved. We moved back in together at our friends place located on 54 Glenridge, behind Merivale Mall. We decided I would look for another job, so I started working for Dr.Hook Towing. We stayed living there for 6 months. In April 2001 we moved into a 3 bedroom house located on 2 Madden Court in Barrhaven. That house was a subsidized unit and geared to our income. Tania told me that while we were apart for those 2 weeks, she had applied for housing, but heard nothing from them till this point. She told me she was going to add my name to the lease. I ended up looking for work in the Barrhaven area, as it was closer to home, and I started paying her 750.00 a month towards rent costs when I started working in the garage in Walmart in Barrhaven. She told me the rent was 930.00 a month because I was working and that we had to pay market rent because of my pays. She made be believe my name was on the lease, so I never questioned it again. During our time together on Madden court, Tania and I had begun to attend a private club called, Bashfull and Bold. For those of you who do not know what this club is. It is a swingers club. This swingers club has a rule that states that both partners, Her and I, Have to remain together when leaving the club, as we were a couple. They had contacted us via telephone, and had discussed the rules and what we were to expect while in attendance at the club. Tania and I were eager to attend. We attended on 3 different days that spread over a 4 month period while living together. We were very much in love, or so I thought. I apparently thought wrong. She was conspirering with her best friend Sandy Greenberg/Loroque to leave me once again, but this time, they were planning to make sure I loose custody of my son Damien permanatly. Tania started to disapear for days at a time. After she still didn't come home the following morning,I would call police and hospitals checking to see if she got into an accident or something terible had happened. I was constantly worried sick. When she finally came back home, days later, she would tell me ,when I asked where she was, and why didn't she call me here at home or answer her cell phone, That it was none of my business and If I must know, she would tell me she was spending time with other men sexually. I got upset, and walked away, thinking she was just trying to get me upset. I started looking for ways to begin saving money so I could move out with my son Damien, because she was causing me so much stress. Keeping in mind, I thought I still held custody of him up to this point, because we never did go back to court in 2001, because we had reconciled. And the fact that I would call my old lawyer, (DOUG SMITH) during our relationship, and ask him if I still had custody of damien, and he assured me, that I did, many times. Tania and I began to argue more and more, because she was sleeping around with many different men, throughout all this time. She even had the gull to bring a guy from work home and prepare a dinner for him, while I was still there. She became quite upset and had cried when she realised that she had not made dinner quite like she wanted for this guy. He drove a school bus with the same company she worked at. She denied at the time, of having any feelings for him that were more then just a simple friendship. Yet she flipped out when it didn't go as well as she planned. She had him sleep over while I was out with my brother, and she was having sexual relations with him at our home while I was out at work, or out visiting family. She stated in court documents that she has never had any relations with anyone at her workplace. She further denied any relationships came from her work place. She moved in with a mechanic who worked at Laidlaw. She met him while we were together, and was sleeping with him while we were still together. She claims that the reason she moved in with him was because she feared I would harrass her at her home, so she claims she had to FLEE to his residence. Ya OK...... Tania and I had agreed that it was best for us to break apart in May of 2004. I explained to her at the time, that I was taking my son with me, because I didn't want to be keeping my son with a woman who clearly has no regards for anyone but herself. I would have wanted to take Kayla with me too, but I was not her biological father, and I knew I would have no chance in hell in court by removing her from Tanias care. Prior to my leaving, I was told by Tania that she was going to spend the weekend at her ex-boyfriends place who resided in Richmond Ontario. I told her that I am fine with her going to spend the weekend there with him, but I am uncomforatable with the thought of her taking the children with her while she has her sexual relations with him. I explained that I will be here with the children, while she goes there, so the children are not exposed to her sexual desires. She told me, that its too bad, she will do what she wanted. She further stated that she will be taking them with her whether I liked it or not. I told her that I will not tolerate her putting the children into that atmosphere, and I will pick them up from school on That Friday afternoon. She told me that I have no choice in the matter, as she stated I have not been on the lease, and therefor, have no proof I lived there at all. I let that go, and went on my business of going to work at Walmart. I left work early that day, and picked up my son Damien, so I knew she would not take him to her ex-boyfriends place. I went from there to see the people at the subsidy office, and told them that he will no longer require any subsidy, as I was taking him as of that day and filing for court actions. I would have gone to get Kayla, but her school was out that day, and Kayla was travelling on the school bus with Tania all day while I was at work. I called Tania and told her I took Damien from school, and I was going to start precedings for court right away. But because it was a Friday, I had to wait till monday to begin. Tania started her precedings from there. When I moved out with Damien, I had taken my computer with me. I found an online conversation on my computer that Tania had with her best friend Sandy while using MSN. In this conversation it states what their intentions were and how they were gonna play it out. She has been fighting me ever since. Here we are now 3 plus years later, and I have tried to explain my case through 3 different lawyers to no avail. I have been accused of all sorts of alligations since, in an attempt for her to gain full custody. I have asked my lawyer to have a split 50/50 arrangement so we both,(Mother and Father) can both be content in watching our children grow. That never happened. I was told that I am only entitled to visatation access every other weekend, and the children have to reside with her. All woman apparently have more rights to our children then we think.